LINEAGE
Timeless wisdom lived through fatherhood
DAILY PRACTICE
UPEKSHA
Not Every Moment Requires Your Intervention
Story
In Buddhist tradition, within the Brahmaviharas (qualities the mind develops as it matures) one of them is Upeksha is often translated as equanimity, in another perspective, it means wise equilibrium: the ability to remain steady without interfering in what must unfold.
She was halfway up the rock, one knee slipping, fingers searching for something stable.
I stepped forward without thinking ready to lift her, help her, make it easier. I stopped. She paused, adjusted her footing, tried again. This time she found balance. Pulled herself up.
At the top, she looked back with a proud smile. Something important had occurred: the moment belonged to her. Sometimes the ability to remain steady without rushing to control what is unfolding.
An action a father can take is restraint. The moment had already done its work.
Shift
Care is not measured by how quickly you intervene, it is measured by what you allow to develop without you.
Action (Today, With Your Children)
When your children are figuring something out:
Do not offer help immediately
Stay physically and emotionally still
Allow yourself to observe your children to struggle on their own.
Step in only if safety truly requires it.
Let your children discover that they are capable
You’re receiving this as part of a daily fatherhood practice
Thank you for being here
PASS IT FORWARD
They can suscribe and obtain this daily